I’m Home Wherever I’m At with Gary Mahler

A talk with my coach Gary Mahler

Gary unapologetically describes himself as a reformed asshole and is focusing his work on helping other assholes do their own transformation!

He’s a peaceful warrior. That’s a really great way to describe him. He’s so quietly confident and sincere that you find yourself wanting him to cut into you with his supportive scalpel so you can free yourself from the dead weight of your false beliefs that hold you back.

We have the pleasure of being with Gary LIVE today here at The Captain’s Quarters in Arizona with an amazing film crew, so that will bring the vibe even higher.


TOUGH TALKS: I’m Home Wherever I’m At with Gary Mahler


Failure to Commit is the High Cost of Low Living

Originally posted by Steve Hardison, The Ultimate Coach, here with the following words:

As requested by dozens of you
This IS NOT a 2:10 second video. It is a 2 hour and 10 minute video on COMMITMENT. If, and when you watch it, please do not watch it about me or the football player, watch it about you and your commitment.
For those of you who dedicate the time to watch it I PROMISE you there will be a shift in your commitment in your life and toward your life. AFTER you have watched it if you will private message and request of me, I will send you a two chapter follow up on keeping your commitment alive over time.
Locving you. Be Blessed. SFH/kab
Chris Dorris, sorry about the lip:)

For My Content Creator Friends

For anyone who wants to create content. I’ve captured the main points underneath this video if Gary Vee’s style ain’t your thing, keep scrolling down…

  • Content needs to be real to you.
  • Make content that is your biggest truth.
  • Only talk about your truth.
  • Be honest and authentic.
  • Don’t pander to the state of what is currently accepted.
  • Shoot your truth 24/7.
  • Stop trying to figure out what will work.
  • Instead… your individual truth of the moment is what will work.
  • You can put out a ton of content.
  • Nobody is putting out content because everybody is overthinking it and pandering to what works and likes, or will it get shared = insecurities and defence.
  • People want truths.
  • Your biggest strength is that you are an individual human.
  • It’s dangerous to have your self esteem wrapped up in how many likes your posts get on instagram.
  • Do you and never waver from that.

Living On Purpose Episode 003

Here is a video interview I did with JP Beaumont for his Living on Purpose podcast.


Emma is a surfer who travels the world, a Scratch DJ who runs School of Scratch (an online school for people wanting to learn how to scratch) and a life coach who helps people to go confidently in the direction of their dreams.

Thank you JP for being a wonderful host!


It’s Great to Suck At Something

From my coach Gary:

"When I do catch a wave and feel the glide, I’ll hold onto that feeling for hours, days or even weeks. I’m hooked on the…

Posted by Gary L Mahler on Saturday, April 29, 2017

Original article:

Not This

When you know, you know. Via Liz Gilbert

NOT THIS: Back by popular demand!(Sweet friends, for some mysterious reason that I still can't figure out, the…

Posted by Elizabeth Gilbert on Tuesday, April 12, 2016

Dear Ones –

Most of us, at some point in our lives (unless we have done everything perfectly…which is: nobody) will have to face a terrible moment in which we realize that we have somehow ended up in the wrong place — or at least, in a very bad place.

Maybe we will have to admit that we are in the wrong job. Or the wrong relationship. With the wrong people around us. Living in the wrong neighborhood. Acting out on the wrong behaviors. Using the wrong substances. Pretending to believe things that we no longer believe. Pretending to be something we were never meant to be.

This moment of realization is seldom fun. In fact, it’s usually terrifying.

I call this moment of realization: NOT THIS.

Because sometimes that’s all you know, at such a moment.

All you know is: NOT THIS.

Sometimes that’s all you CAN know.

All you know is that some deep life force within you is saying, NOT THIS, and it won’t be silenced.

Your body is saying: NOT THIS.

Your heart is saying: NOT THIS.

Your soul is saying: NOT THIS.

But your brain can’t bring itself to say “NOT THIS”, because that would cause a serious problem. The problem is: You don’t have a Plan B in place. This is the only life you have. This is the only job you have. This is the only spouse you have. This is the only house you have. Your brain says, “It may not be great, but we have to put up with it, because there are no other options.” You’re not sure how you got here — to this place of THIS — but you sure as hell don’t know how to get out…


But still, beating like a quiet drum, your body and your heart and your soul keep saying: NOT THIS…NOT THIS…NOT THIS.

I think some of the bravest people I have ever met were people who had the courage to say the words, “NOT THIS” outloud — even before they had an alternative plan.

People who walked out of bad situations without knowing if there was a better situation on the horizon.

People who looked at the life they were in, and they said, “I don’t know what my life is supposed to be…but it’s NOT THIS.” And then they just…left.

I think my friend who walked out of a marriage after less than a year, and had to move back in with her mother (back into her childhood bedroom), and face the condemnation of the entire community while she slowly created a new life for herself. Everyone said, “If he’s not good enough for you, who will be?” She didn’t know. She didn’t know anything about what her life would look like now. But it started with her saying: NOT THIS.

I think of my friend who took her three young children away from a toxic marriage, despite that fact that her husband supported her and the kids financially…and the four of them (this woman and her three children) all slept in one bed together in a tiny studio apartment for a few years, while she struggled to build a new life. She was poor, she was scared, she was alone. But she had to listen to the voices within her that said, NOT THIS.

I think of friends who walked out of jobs — with no job waiting for them. Because they said NOT THIS.

I think of friends who quit school, rather than keep pretending that they cared about this field of study anymore. And yes, they lost the scholarship. And yes, they ended up working at a fast food restaurant, while everyone else was getting degrees. And yes, it took them a while to figure out where to go next. But there was a relief at last in just surrendering to the holy, non-negotiable truth of NOT THIS.

I think of friends who bravely walked into AA meetings and just fell apart in front of a room full of total strangers, and said, NOT THIS.

I think of a friend who pulled her children out of Sunday School in the middle of church one Sunday because she’d had it with the judgment and self-righteousness of this particular church. Yes, it was her community. Yes, it was her tribe. But she physically couldn’t be in that building anymore without feeling that she would explode. She didn’t know where she was going, spiritually or within her community, but she said, NOT THIS. And walked out.

Rationally, it’s crazy to abandon a perfectly good life (or at least a familiar life) in order to jump into a mystery. No sane person would advise you to make such a leap, with no Plan B in place. We are supposed to be careful. We are supposed to be prudent.

And yet….

And yet.

If you keep ignoring the voices within you that say NOT THIS, just because you don’t know what to do, instead…you may end up stuck in NOT THIS forever.

You don’t need to know where you are going to admit that where you are standing right now is wrong.

The bravest thing to say can be these two words.

What comes next?

I don’t know. You don’t know. Nobody knows. It might be worse. It might be better. But whatever it is…? It’s NOT THIS.